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Be Curious

February 10, 2016 by Sara Nolan

Easy to Advise, Hard to Do: Stay Curious By now, you've pressed submit on your college applications.  Or your child has.  Or your friend has.  Or someone you knew as a baby has.  Or you're reflecting on an upcoming big decision that is is-- at this point out-- of your hands (more on hands in a moment). How can you keep from dying with agony over what the results will be?  Be curious. And by "curious", I don't mean obsessed.  And I don't mean neurotically rehearsing possibilities.  "Be curious" urges and instructs you to find in yourself an open state of friendly inquiry into the present.  As in, the present.  As in, the present. I didn't know any better back when I'm a hypocrite.  When I was waiting for my college letters, 8 million years ago when humans had just sprouted opposable thumbs, I couldn't maintain the equanimous tenet of "Be curious" (about your experience). No, I had the worst nightmares of my life, things I couldn't even believe my imagination could come up with, in an other-wise generally PG-13-rated brain-scape, and content I don't feel comfortable rehashing in this blog. But almost 20 years later, I still remember those dreams vividly.  So you can imagine how much they sucked, and how much my mind was hijacked by worry about what I could not control. This is why I can say confidently that if you can "be curious" instead of "being consumed", your time will pass a lot more enjoyably. An exercise in curiosity with opposable thumbs Your opposable thumbs are going to be your ally in this moment.  Check 'em out.  Stick 'em up.  Gaze at their tips to steady your attention.  Make them kiss each other like I did as a kid.  Be curious about your hands, like a baby (or a stoner, but that's a different matter) might be. (Haven't been around a baby in a while? I've got one whose diapers you can change with your opposable...). Here are simple activities that allow you to test your opposable thumb's usefulness-- for essay writing and more. The  Continue Reading …

Filed Under: Exercise, Integrity, Practice, State of Mind, Uncategorized Tagged With: anxiety, better breathing, Body Language University, Curiosity, evolution, heart, Linguistic Society of America, opportunities, opposable thumb, personal essay, Sir Isaac Newton, Writing

How to Take a Deep Breath

January 28, 2016 by Sara Nolan

Pause the panic mode You know when you're getting really pissed off, anxious, or stressed, and someone says, "It's OK, just take a deep breath"? Sometimes, you want to smack the person. Even so, you suspect that advice is spot-on, and that your emotional hubbub (Too many application essays, anyone?  Computer stalling, anyone? Fridge has no food again, anyone? Relatives grating at you, anyone?) could get quietly derailed. But in the moment, when you're stuck in shallow breathing (and maybe shallow thinking), "Take a deep breath" is annoying to hear, and for whatever reason hard to remember to do. Even though it's the easiest-- and actually most helpful-- thing of all (and free--did we say free?). Plus, maybe you don't know how.  Really how. These trying moments of intensity can be greeted as opportunities for taking-- or learning to take, or finding value in taking-- a deep breath.  I have to relearn this lesson all the time. So get your big breath on If you've never been shown otherwise, you might take a deep breath by puffing up your chest while tensing your jaw and shoulders, and leave it at that. No bueno.  Instead, read on to learn what that well-meaning correct-but-pain-in-your-ass person could have instructed you to do-- a gift you can give yourself right now, and every day from now on, if you so choose. How can you get that restorative, revitalizing deep breath? You know, the one that makes all your problems (momentarily) go away? Well, it's not just your chest you want to move, even though that's the part of our bodies we most closely associate with breathing.  In fact, it's more helpful if you think your lungs are in your belly. Your diaphragm will pull down the lower lobes of your lungs, and your blood, brain and spirit will be richer for it.  Your parasympathetic nervous system, the function that allows you to relax, will give you a full-bodied thumbs-up. Here's the triumvirate of breathing exercises Try it according to my  Continue Reading …

Filed Under: Exercise, Practice, Solutions, State of Mind, Uncategorized Tagged With: anxiety, Awaken the Soul, better breathing, deep breathing, deep breathing exercise, Dr Weil, Master Li, Psych Central, Richard Freeman, stress, stress relief

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